Sobriety is a multi-dimensional artform. Mastery takes a few months, but you’ll understand it quickly.
You exist in many dimensions at the same time.
Addiction recovery must address all of these, but the current mainstream models don’t.
The DECE Method (created by Jess) quickly works through every dimension.
The DECE Method, Short Version
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Detach
Let go gracefully of varying frequencies in different dimensions of life.
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Expand
After passing through the void state, you’ll get an intuitive sense that you want to start learning or growing in new ways.
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Create
Once you’ve expanded into your ‘new container,’ you’ll get inspired to start creating.
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Enjoy
This is pretty self explanatory :)
Please do not identify as an alcoholic or addict, I prefer identifying as “sober” or “creative.”
You are building a new core identity and core sober memories. The new ‘you’ should be built around qualities like joy, fun, adventure, mastery, always learning, leadership, open-mindedness, willingness, creativity, and more – NOT built around defects, flaws, being self-deprecating, or thinking you are limited in some capacity because you ‘are an alcoholic.’ You aren’t limited. You have access to unlimited expansion.
In a few months, as you do the DECE method, you’ll start speaking about your past like this:
“I got wayyyy too involved with drugs/alcohol, some of it was fun but also cringe AF haha. Honestly it was a coping mechanism for a bunch of core wounds I didn’t even realize I was operating from I moved past all the drugs and alcohol very quickly and now am focused on gaining emotional intelligence, creating a badass and caring social circle, healing past traumas, and building an amazing life I don’t need to escape from. I feel the freest I’ve ever felt and it’s just getting better every single day!”
Detach
First, we have to deconstruct our old identities.
All Levels & Dimensions:
Physical clutter
Mental fears
Emotional anguish
Spiritual/religious imprisonment
Financial dependence
Career misery
Relationship unhappiness
Drug/alcohol vices
Unhealthy diets
Systemic oppression
Institutional collapse
Ancestral wounds
Environmental harm
Lineage illness
Generational trauma
Collective human suffering
Primordial creative blocks
*There may be more that will be specific to you, these are general ones
** Detachment happens thousands of times per day. You can be practicing detachment almost every second of the day.
*** When you feel yourself getting “hurt,” you may be hitting on core wounds on several of these levels/dimensions. What might be a seemingly small insecurity actually goes back to your ancestors and generational trauma. You need to detach the insecurity through all the dimensions. It just takes meditation to achieve this.
Sounds like:
Quit
Walk away
Unplug
Decenter
Deconstruct
Dismantle
Divorce
Throw away
Donate
Declutter
Say no
Deprogram
Set boundaries
Tower moment
Break up
Death
Exhale
>The Void State
Once you get to a neutral place from detaching, you will walk into the void. It can feel uncomfortable. This is where people will relapse or turn back to their old ways. Push through the void. It will eventually feel very peaceful here.
All Levels:
Physical clearing
Mental clarity
Emotional discomfort
Spiritual depression
Financial flatline
Career plateau
Relationship focus inward
Drug/alcohol sobriety
Junkfood purge
Systemic awareness
Institutional purgatory
Ancestral acknowledgement
Environmental unknown
Lineage acceptance
Generational trauma
Collective human awakening
Primordial creative pause
As you move through the void, old or stale ‘Low Frequencies’ IE fear, anxiety, regret, resentment will surface. Think of it like popping bubbles. Feel the frequencies/emotions that are coming out, acknowledge what they are (learning emotional intelligence), find the root lesson, and detach from them.
Be patient here. Your nervous system is recalibrating. You will feel strange for a few hours or a few days, and then there will be a sense to try something new. When you get a mastery over the DECE method, you will pass through the void fairly quickly.
Sounds like:
Discomfort
Nothingness
Emptiness
Unsettled
Unknown
Fearful
Anxiety
Spiritual awakening
Survivor’s guilt
Grief
Floating
Peace
Zen
Tranquility
Expand
You will feel a sense of wanting to go out and be a little bit more adventurous. It can be as subtle as wanting to try out a new recipe. Don’t rush the process.
All Levels:
Physical roaming
Mental curiosity
Emotional depth
Spiritual exploration
Financial learning
Career development
Relationship understanding
Sober growth
Dietary audit
Systemic unfolding
Institutional augmentation
Ancestral amplification
Environmental travel
Lineage evolution
Generational healing
Collective human elevation
Primordial creative opening
Your ‘old you’ cleared out in the void, so now your ‘new you’ is being created. Enjoy the expansion process, go with the flow. Aim for a ‘beginner’s mind’, curiosity, don’t attach yourself to the outcome. What if you decided to be someone brand new? Try it out for a day, or 100.
Sounds like:
Curiosity
Growth mindset
Healing
Learning
Evolving
Networking
Prioritizing
Willing
Open-mindedness
Say yes
Humility/humbleness
Travel
Adventure
”Do it for the plot”
Inhale
Living
>Inspiration
All of your new growth and learning is getting you into a new inner alignment. As that sets in, you will create an internal chemical reaction – Inspiration! It will happen in a split second.
All Levels:
Physical
Mental
Emotional
Spiritual
Financial
Career
Relationship
Sober
Dietary
Systemic
Institutional
Ancestral
Environmental
Lineage
Generational
Collective humanity
Primordial source
Ride that inspiration into the next state.
Sounds like:
A spark
Motivation
Ambition
Drive
”I want to go make something”
”I want to get really focused”
Create
Inspiration will lead to creativity. This is a huge sign your nervous system is healing itself.
All Levels:
Physical feng shui
Mental mastery
Emotional intelligence
Spiritual liberation
Financial independence
Career promotion
Relationship bliss
Sober freedom
Dietary balance
Systemic upgrades
Institutional helpfulness
Ancestral appreciation
Environmental rebirth
Lineage gratitude
Generational celebration
Collective human ingenuity
Primordial creative flow
Don’t hold yourself back. Create what you want to create. Make a new social media profile page featuring your art, even if it’s for 4 months. Who cares? Enjoy your own artistry for whatever reason you want to.
Sounds like:
Paint
Dance
Garden
Volunteer
Write
Open mic nights
Karaoke
Sing
Play
Engineer
Invest
Design
Flexibility
Progress, not perfection
Just for kicks n’ giggles
Why the heck not?
>Level Up
This one is short and sweet. You’ll know you’ve hit your newest highest timeline.
Enjoy!
You are your own self-generating joy machine. On every plane of existence. You do not need money, material possessions, or a romantic relationship to feel joyous. You can just do it, all by breathing and knowing which dimension you’re in. Tada!
As the joy frequency ends, eventually you will move into a state of detachment. Then just repeat the DECE method over and over again.
As you clear out the old Low Frequencies from the various levels, your inner self will eventually align and you will feel immense bliss just walking down the street.
The ultimate goal of the DECE method is to enjoy all states.
The ultimate, ultimate goal, is to experience all states at the same time, all the time. It feels like heaven on earth and you don’t need anything else but you.
You got this :) Trust the process.
Make it stand out.
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Dream it.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
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Build it.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
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Grow it.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Interested in 1:1 coaching with Jess?
It’s $100 USD for 7 days, we will chit chat on Discord throughout the week, I will give you various exercises for your inner alignment. Easy to implement. Let’s quantum leap through therapy and mainstream recovery. We’re cutting out the unnecessary suffering and inefficient old models. Low risk, high reward.